How to cope with losing a dog

Absolutely. Grieving for a dog is a natural response to losing a loyal companion. Your dog loved you, and you loved them — so of course their passing will leave a void. 

Sadly, the loss of a pet isn’t always treated the same way as losing a person. People may not always understand, but that doesn’t make your feelings any less real. The relationship you had with your dog was special, and it’s perfectly okay to mourn them deeply. 

Our bond with dogs is wonderfully uncomplicated — they’re constant, forgiving, and full of joy. They’re often the first to greet us in the morning and the last to settle beside us at night. 

Because they’re woven into our routines — from walks and feeding times to sofa snuggles — their absence can leave our days feeling empty. Losing a dog isn’t just losing a friend, but sometimes a sense of purpose and rhythm, too. 

There’s no “right” way to grieve. Everyone experiences loss differently — for some, it comes in waves; for others, it’s a gradual ebbing of sadness over time. Feelings of shock, guilt, anger, or loneliness are all completely normal. 

If you’re struggling to cope, it can help to speak with someone you trust or reach out to your GP or a pet bereavement service such as The Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Support Service. 

Grief has no timetable. For some, it eases after a few weeks; for others, it takes months or even longer. Some days will feel lighter, others heavier. What matters is giving yourself the time and kindness you need to heal. 

• Take your time – Grief can’t be rushed. Let yourself feel what you feel and move through the process at your own pace. 
• Look after yourself – Eat well, rest, and get some fresh air. Even a gentle walk can help clear your head. 
• Talk about it – Share your feelings with friends or fellow dog lovers. Sometimes, talking to someone who understands that bond can make all the difference. 
• Write it down – Keeping a journal, creating a photo book or writing a letter to your dog can be a comforting way to express how you feel. 
• Find new routines – Try to keep up habits that make you feel grounded — maybe take your usual walking route, even without your dog, or find new hobbies that bring you joy. 
• Take things at your own pace – Some people like to tidy away their dog’s belongings quickly; others take comfort in keeping them close. There’s no right or wrong way. 
• Create a memorial – Plant a tree, frame a photo, or keep a small keepsake. Remembering your dog in a special way can bring comfort and keep their spirit close. 

Choosing to say goodbye is one of the hardest decisions an owner can make. It’s normal to question whether you did the right thing - but remember, this decision came from love and kindness. You put your dog’s wellbeing before your own heartbreak, and that’s the greatest act of care there is. 

Losing a dog can be confusing for children. Be honest, gentle, and open about what’s happened. Encourage them to share how they feel and reassure them that it’s okay to be sad. 

Creative ways to remember their pet - such as drawing a picture, writing a letter, or making a memory box - can help children express their emotions and keep hold of happy memories. 

Try to avoid rushing into getting another pet right away. Give the whole family time to grieve and heal before making that decision together. 

For older people, losing a dog can be especially hard — particularly if the dog was their main companion. The loss can leave the house feeling quiet and empty. Staying active, joining local groups or spending time with friends can help ease loneliness while processing the grief. 

Other pets in the household may also grieve. They might seem withdrawn, go off their food, or seek more attention. Give them reassurance, keep their routine steady, and spend extra time together — it’ll help both of you adjust. 

It’s natural to want to fill the emptiness but try not to rush. A new dog can bring joy again, but only when you’re ready. Each dog is unique, and expecting a new one to replace the old can be unfair to both of you. 

You’ll know when the time is right — and when it comes, it will be for the right reasons. 

When someone loses their dog, a few kind words can mean the world. A simple “I’m so sorry — they were such a lovely dog” can offer real comfort. 

Avoid phrases like “You can get another” or “At least they had a good life.” Instead, listen, let them share memories, and offer gentle company — maybe a walk, a chat, or just a quiet cuppa together. 

Grief is lighter when it’s shared and knowing that someone else understands that bond can make all the difference.